Who you travel with

In life, it’s not where you go – It’s who you travel with.

— Charles Schulz

I’m starting to realise this is true more and more. Not only does this apply to my own ideas about applying minimalism in relationships (keep the ones that spark joy perhaps?), but also to what sort of person I want to be.

I will be a part of hundreds of lives during my time, some shortly for a dinner or a smile in a store, some deeply, it’s worth really thinking deeply about what sort of person I want to be in those lives.

Reaching any goal

Have you reached every goal you have? No? Than something isn’t working, and that something is you. To do something you’ve never done before, you have to do things differently than you have before.

Losing weight, starting a business, being creative, everything demands a change of routines and lifestyle. You have to change.

Don’t be afraid to throw out who you are. When something doesn’t get us what we want, change is the only way we can get it, so embrace it fearlessly. Here’s how:

  1. Disregard how you usually do something (or how you are, that’s nonsense).
  2. Read about or talk to people who have done something.
  3. Try it.
  4. Do it all over until you succeed, or want to do something else.

This post is a part of my 6 month experiment of discovering strategies for life.

Being too serious will stifle your creativity

Joy isn’t a signal that you’re not serious. It’s a sign that you’re curious and engaged.

— Ingrid Fetell

There’s nothing important enough to be serious about. Only things that are seriously boring.

Staying awake to life

Call it mindfulness, call it happiness. Staying awake to the world is crucial to live a full life. Here are 5 excellent life tips by Sara Hendren.

Here is the hardest thing for many people about adulthood: Staying awake. That is, resisting the somnambulance that will grow like weeds over any state of habitual life, excepting acute crises. You have to actively invite experiences into your life that will interrupt the smallness of your story and the calcifying generalizations you make about the world based on your own private universe.

— Sara Hendren

Personal style for the minimalist

I’m a tall white 34 year old man from Sweden. I’ve never been able to purchase clothes that really fit. I’ve bought custom tailored shirts for years.

Is it too early to just go old school, and wear suits the entire time? I’ve always been comfortable in classic outfits. It fits my personality quite well. And I’ve basically been using a personal uniform for ten years (blue jeans, white shirt, leather jacket).

I’d like to pair down. My wardrobe as much as the time I spend on outfits. Are suits a smart way to go, or will I be spending too much and drearily wearing the same thing every day?

Classic style for gentlemen — or boring wage slave old farts?Classic style for gentlemen — or boring wage slave old farts?

Classic style for gentlemen — or boring wage slave old farts?

Getting rid of wish lists

I’ve been practicing minimalism for years. Slowly getting rid of things that I don’t need. But I realized only yesterday that I’m hoarding clutter in my own head. Getting stressed for no reason. So I’ve decided to get rid of that stuff.

Yesterday I was talking to my friend Magnus about how he managed his reading list. You know, that list of books and articles you keep in three different places that always seems to grow? Those amazon wish lists that never seems to have a thing you want to read right now?

Well Magnus didn’t have one, and that got me thinking.

I’ve been bookmarking all these books, articles, movies and TV-shows all over the place. But how much time am I actually spending enjoying things from these lists? To be honest, most of the time I stress about them and maybe once in a while I prune. So what is the point of keeping a list of musts when they were supposed to be entertaining?

This is the essence of minimalism. Your stuff ends up owning you. When you spend more time on upkeep of your stuff than on enjoying them. It becomes a ridiculous waste of lifetime.

So I’m getting rid of my lists. I will no longer store articles, I’ll read them or disregard them. I’ll no longer add books to lists. Either I want to read it now, or I’ll come back when I feel like it. I’m not about to stop consuming media. Instead I’m going to consume what I want, instead of what I should want.

The goal is to get down to one or two things I’m reading. One thing I want to see next. The rest can wait.

There’s never enough time as it is. Why the hell keep holding on to distraction?

Stop living for the weekends and start living

Today, like every Friday, I’m receiving an alarming amount of tweets on the lines of “tgif!” “weekend is near”. This focus on living only in the weekends is starting to freak me out.
Why do we only live on the weekends? Probably because we have full control our own time. But this won’t work in the long run, we can’t spend 71% of our adult lives waiting to live. We need to find a balance to live and work in the same days.

  • If you hate your job, get a new one. Find something you enjoy doing and never settle for something less.
  • Don’t work long hours. Work towards goals and achievements. If you can make things happen, point them out to your boss and state that you’ll come in later or leave earlier when you can. Because living is important to you and your work.
  • If you have children, spouses or situations that you can’t change. Make sure you live with them. Maybe you can do things with your children that you will enjoy as well as them.

Whatever we do, we can’t live only in the weekends. We can’t spend 5 days out of 7 looking forward to a short burst of life. We need to squeeze more time out of the days we have already.

So this Monday, why not do something fun?