Like most beginnings, this one has been rocky for me. But the foundation is now in place.
My economy is in the black again. My home slightly redesigned. So now what? Oh yes. It’s time to tackle the big step. Time to redefine how I wish to live.
This took me quite a few days pondering and procrastinating, even though the result looks simple enough. But I view this as a first iteration, my first test, and I expect it to have rough edges or even gaping flaws.
I think any lifestyle redesign needs to be different enough from ones old life to create a different outcome. But like diets, have enough margin for the occasional slip up. So I based this on three goals:
- I want to create extraordinary things.
- I want to play more.
- My health must be in balance to create fertile ground for the first two.
The first one is not that difficult. I need focused time to work. And limits on that time so I don’t burn out.
The second one is hard. Play is not something you can really plan for. But hopefully meditation will help me here.
The third one is really hard. I work out quite a lot, and eat well. Have done for the last few years. But I also have onset insomnia making me sick and tired often. Creating a balance where this affects me less will be very difficult indeed.
To achieve these goals I plan to structure 80% of my time. Laid out weekly, that means following this schedule for 5.6 days and leaving the rest unplanned.
Every day I will try to live like this:
- 8+1 hours of sleep (the 1 is for getting into and out of bed)
- 8 hours of focused work, probably in chunks of 4+2+2
- 2 hours for food preparation and eating.
- 2 hours spent at the gym, or on off days learning something new (I’ll try Italian and the guitar)
- Which leaves 3 hours for play.
Now I’m sure this doesn’t take everything into account. There’s no time for grocery shopping or just cleaning my apartment. But it’s interesting to write it all down like this.
Also, it doesn’t really look that different from a “normal life” does it? To test this I’ll be using the Hours app on my iPhone to track the amount of time I’m putting into each segment.
I’m on my second day now. Sadly with really poor sleep. But hey, at least I’ve started.
Getting started was much harder than expected. After I got past the first wave of fear & procrastination actual problems reared their ugly heads.
Now there are a lot of people who complain about this word; problems. They seem to believe that by admitting there is such a thing, we stop and give up.
I’ve never believed that. I think we need to clearly state and define every problem and complication before we can do anything about them.
In my experience, the people complaining about this word are the same people who are least likely to solve anything. I might be wrong about this, but it is interesting to note that the larger and more sluggish an organisation, the fewer problems they seem to communicate.
I have things I need to deal with to really get going. The first of these major hurdles I’ve just left in the dust. I’ve managed to clean up my debt and I’m back in the black. It took some radical action, but I’m actually better off now than I have been in years.
I also managed to celebrate my 31st birthday with a few of my dearest friends. We drank sparkling wine far into the night and both laughed and cries. There was also chocolate cake that might haunt me forever.
Thank you everyone, I really needed that.
As soon as I had decided to redesign my life. All my creativity left me. All the ideas and opportunities dried up instantly from my mind.
It’s odd how much we’re dependent on a sense of normalcy, of having routine, to help us act.
This is fear, a resistance we feel to change. I’ve never felt it this clearly.
But it’s time to get comfortable with change. Not as a single event, something that happens every once in a while. But something that is constantly ongoing.
Nothing is ever the same. Not even us.
This week I’ve spent time discussing what it is I want to change with my life. And I’ve realized I feel trapped. By debt, and by living in the same place for 6 years.
So the coming week, I hope to significantly change that state.
This december my life changed dramatically. I transitioned from being a partner of the worlds best web agencies to what is essentially a normal, though mostly remote, developer job.
Then suddenly, my intended life partner left me. We came to terms again but after months of tears, talks and moments of happiness we finally parted ways.
So now I find myself in a situation usually refered to as a life crisis. But I’m not sure I would call it that.
I’m not crushed. Just a bit sad.
I am not powerless, but more empowered than ever before.
So what now?
I’ve always wanted to design my own lifestyle. To try and define how parts of my life fit together. And I’ve had some success creating an unorthodox daily routine already. But now is the perfect time to try something a bit more interesting.
I’m looking into every area of my life, to try to change basically everything, into something that is more me. I will post a step by step log here with my ideas, and my outcomes.
I have no idea where this is going.
But here’s my initial plan: Over the coming year, I will try to tackle one aspect of my life per week. Some might take many weeks. Some might take days. I expect most of these experiments to fail, but to be interesting nonetheless.
If you have any ideas, I’d love to read them. I have a few already and will post about the first one shortly.
Ello is a new social network, aimed to take on Facebook by not selling peoples information. It’s invite only, and has a very sparse set of features.
- Follow people like Twitter
- usernames like Twitter
- focus on posting like Twitter / Tumblr
- posts are re-shareable, full of media, more like Tumblr than FB.
- Execution is really bad.
- It’s really strange to navigate and use.
- Doesn’t work on mobile at all.
- While the team seems to be scrambling, nothing seems to be happening.
- VC funded with no business model. This is worse that Twitters year over year fail to turn a profit.